STOP BEING UNTRUTHFUL,I KNOW YOU ARE LYING!!

Not all lies are hurtful. In fact, sometimes lying is the best approach for protecting our privacy and that of others, some researchers say. Some deception, such as boasting and lies in the name of tact and politeness, reclassified are considered as less serious. Bald-faced lies (whether they involve leaving out the truth or putting in something false), are harmful, as they corrode trust and intimacy—the glue of society.

                                  

We all lie, all the time. It causes problems, to say the least. So why do we do it?

 It boils down to the shifting sands of the self and trying to look good to others and ourselves. According to the experts "It's tied in with self-esteem," "We find that as soon as people feel that their self-esteem is threatened, they immediately begin to lie at higher levels."

"We're trying not so much to impress other people but to maintain a view of ourselves that is consistent with the way they would like ourselves to be, we want to be agreeable, to make the social situation smoother or easier, and to avoid insulting others through disagreement or discord.

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PROMISE YOU MY DEAR.

You promise that you will come back. You promise to stay with me. You promise me that everything will be alright in our relationship. You promise that everything will be perfect and under control as well. You even familiarised the word of God to me. You said to me that “ if you read this and believe that everything written here is true everything will go right” remember that my dear.

Therefore, I’ve been looking for you all these years. You never tell me where you went which is wrong remembering our promises.  Yet, you promise to love me for the rest of my life. I never spend much time with you because you are always up and down everywhere my dear lover. I wanted to know you better because we are lovers. I wanted to know what you like or dislike in order to make our relationship stronger. Now see you on pictures, but I have something I want to tell you but it’s still pending on my mind .Something that has haunted me all these years. Something that I think will in favourable of both of us.

I want hold your hand. I want to hear your voice saying you love me that is my wish even my prayer as well. I want to see your face with a smile and promise me again that everything will be perfect so my heart will be fine at all the time. I miss your presence in my life.  I remember one day when we were from Town, you bought me a cake and chocolate. You smiled when you saw me carrying my bag, and wearing my new uniform. I cannot forget that day because it was my first day at school. I remember what you said, “I’m proud of you my angel”. I think it was the last time I saw you. The last time I heard your voice and the last time I saw you.

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ONLY BAD THINGS HAPPEN QUICKLY

In life, you must be ready for whatever comes your way because you never know when your life will end. Many people play with their lives without measuring the limits of what can happen to them in the end. They focus of the unimportant things wasting their time only to realise at the very end that their bad decisions have cost them a lot.

In Africa, most people believe that death is caused by a person’s bad actions or decisions; even it is God’s will. Some people do sometimes blame God; they accuse him of being the cause of the deaths of their relatives.  That is a great fallacy of black people living without faith in their lives, it is a bad conception of a non-Christians.

The rich believe that they are untouchable; they believe that if anything bad happens to them poor people who are jealous of them would have caused it. Life on earth is not uniform, we have rich and poor people and these two classes are always judging each other according to their groups. So be ready at any time because the future it is not for you, so be careful in order to escape complaining by saying that only the bad things happen quickly

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IF NOT NOW, THEN WHEN?

The English phrase, “good things befall those who wait” sounds crucial, but there is a challenge of not knowing how much one must wait and not knowing when somebody’s time will come. Better life is for everyone. None must be subjected to waiting whilst others are benefitting now. Waiting is boring and it has resulted in certain important dreams ending up being not realisable.  

Of course, it is advantageous for people to do things at their time in a proper way. Waiting too unnecessarily could be failure of destiny. People ought to be careful not to take longer in order to exert control and purpose in their lives. For instance, Africa has waited for far too long to have leaders of great integrity, who are corruption free and exult with superior ideals of selflessness. Now the continent needs salvation for its own.

The elders teach us in parables. In French they say, “Profiter de l’occasion quand il est temps’’ (make the best out of the occasion whilst you still have time). In Swahili, they say, “Vunja mufupa kama ukingali na meno”, which means in English “use your time when you are young”. When is still fresh or when his teeth are still cutting one should take the opportunity to break the bone. However, we should not misinterpret these important phrases and change the direction of life and wisdom. These critical phrases seek to elucidate the journey of life.

Furthermore, a wise young person is the one who knows how to plan his life and execute these plans at a right time while other people are playing with their brains. In life, there is only one chance to make a success: there is not second chance. It is also common to hear some youth saying, “you only live once, so lets enjoy”. Africa is still young in terms of civilisation and modern conception of democracy. However, it needs to stop being permanently locked in the celebration mood. For instance, many black South Africans are celebrating political victory which came after 400 years of colonialism and apartheid. They have yet to take a step forward in the direction of realising their common goal as a people.

Unfortunately, harsh realities of life will teach a person a lesson for ignoring his time. There is time to go to school; to go to work; to get married; to give birth to bouncing and intelligent children. No one ought to start very late. The Englishmen conclude nicely,“time wasted will never return”. 

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WE ALL NEED MONEY?

Money is an economic commodity for exchange. It has defined our value in life. We all need money in order to survive, but we must not be a slave of it. Pursuit of wealth affects any human being. People seek money in many ways. Others terminate lives to get it. Compassion and mindfulness used to guide economic systems of the past, especially in Africa. But, today, be it a businessperson, a pastor in the church, a thug, a prominent figure in the society, they are all driven by desire to have more money. Some principles get washed away from the fabric of the society because of this money worshiping syndrome.

The world has become corrupt. Other people follow wrong ways for the sake of getting money faster. Killing people; selling drugs; hijacking cars; doing prostitution; armed robberies and illegal human trafficking are some of the many reasons why the demon of money needs not to be worshipped blindly. Of course, we all need money but we must get it by following the proper channels.

The money issue world is complex. There is unfair competition between the poor and powerful countries. The underdeveloped countries were robbed of their wealth, intelligence and human spirit to serve the insatiable greed of the wealthy countries. The ruling and controlling class even in the poor countries are controlling the resources and end up causing massive starvation and diseases. All is done because they need money to save their skins.

“More money more problems” sums it up. But this should not be the end in itself. Money should be used correctly as means to solve problems. Money coupled with the love human beings, respect for human rights, understanding of the collective need for development, putting an end to exploitation of the powerless is a route of all world goodies.  

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WRITE YOUR BUCKET LIST/ 100 THINGS TO DO BEFORE TO DIE?

It could be sometimes unfair to enlighten or to express to other people what I will do before to die. Death must be a secret even the seasoned writers do not want to share. To write is not necessary mean to inform of what you intent to do, but to persuade the reader to follow your arguments, and in order to conceive a thought about phenomena.

Life is too short, yet life can be lived to the fullest. Life has plentiful things to enjoy. People do make promises, “until death do us apart”, forgetting that death is always knocking at ones door. In Xhosa they say, “ukufa kusembizeni” (death is inside the pot). One can see similar that throughout the African continent people have come to realise that death is imminent. In Swahili they say, “Kifo ni rafla” whereas in French they say, “La mort est subite ou bien brusque”.

Each every one before to knock off the earth needs to understood what exactly life is all about. Every day our agenda must be to make plans for a better life for all. Some people could start by having big dreams. Now, everyone needs to write down a list of the things h really like to accomplish in life for the benefit of humanity.

Order your priorities and share your dreams with your kids. Tell them about your purpose in life. Tell them what they need to do to become human beings. Teach them about the value of education to shape up their future and that of many generations to come. Teach them to write 100 things they would like to achieve before they die. 

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ONE IS ONE DAY.

Courting is a form of dating used in the olden days especially in the event that a man develops an affection for the lady in the hope that they will get married. However, these days courting has lost its value and meaning. It is not important as people use dating just for fun.

One can get a partner anywhere and anyhow. If they found a perfect date in the league of courtship is another story given the amount of divorce that has plagued our society. It is “win and mislay” these days. Some say that the most people who are worse in dating are women and that they do not consider the consequences if those consequences may lead them into losing the men they fancy.

Women are empowered these days: they are go-getters. Sometimes, they pick the sour grapes. When this happens everybody in the family gets affected. It isnot uncommon to hear a woman stating, “I do not need a stable relationship. I take whatever comes my way because I do not want any strings attached”.

As a result of this attitude, some men have learnt to follow suite and others take advantage of the situation. Research has it that statistics of rape, domestic violence, abuse, loss of trust and dishonesty have become rampant in the society. Who holds the moral compass?

Worst of all one finds out that older men date girls younger than some of their granddaughters: boys will go out with women of the same age if not older than their mothers. The occurrence of that in the media we learn about incidents of rape where grannies fall victim to teenage boys.

This is a story of a new generation. The world has turned. We do not know whether it is has changed for the better or not. Cheating in the midst of HIV and infectious diseases has become a pillar of modern relationships. Some people or couples get murdered due to this, and there is no apparent solution in the horizon. 

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